“Have patience with all things, But, first of all with yourself.”
-Saint Francis de Sales
Patience is an essential characteristic in all aspects of life. Most notably with relationships. Having patience with yourself can turn into more patience with others. Meanwhile, showing a loved one patience can also make them more patient with you.
Here are three ways to develop patience
Practice good listening
Being a good conscious listener can help you slow down and be present in a conversation. Instead of listening 25% of the time and in turn planning your response, make sure that you are listening and understanding what the other person is saying.
Mindfulness is being in the moment instead of thinking about the past or future. You can be mindful by paying attention to your surroundings, living the moment, and accepting yourself. Doing these things can help you slow down and give us ease.
Oppose unreasonable demands
Sometimes we become impatient because we take on too much. Trying to tackle multiple tasks at once can take a toll and make you wish away time. Having a healthy balance is important so you can be present with your work and focus on each thing during its own time.
“I believe we are all on this Earth to love and to be loved. Love is about open communication, mutual respect, forgiveness, grace, kindness, and patience.” – Jenni Viken, Choosing Healthy Relationships
Relax and take deep breaths.
Finding time in your day to just loosen up can help you slow down and be present, calm your nerves and reduce stress and anxiety.
Breathing exercise: Close your lips and inhale through your nose for a count of four. Hold your breath for a count of seven. Exhale completely through your mouth making a whoosh sound for a count of eight. This completes one cycle. Repeat for 3 more cycles.